Used to be that enjoying anal sex was taboo for women. If a couple did give anal a test drive, it was seen as a once-in-a-while experience—something a woman indulged in for her partner’s sake, not because she actually enjoyed it.
Lately, however, it seems that this script has been flipped. An increasing number of hetero couples are adding anal sex to their playbook. Slowly, anal is entering the mainstream. And though it’s not for everyone, more women are speaking out about the pleasure it brings them.
“Historically, there was a pervasive narrative that anal sex is something women do for their partners…but that myth is slowly getting erased,” Alicia Sinclair, sex educator and CEO of online erotic boutique b-Vibe, tells Health. “Because of all the nerves and potential pleasure points inside and around the anus, anal play can be very pleasurable.”
Whether it’s your first time trying anal sex or you’ve experienced it before and are looking for some new ways to enjoy backdoor play, check out these expert-recommended positions. Each makes anal sex comfortable, fun, and intimate.
(A little advice first: Enjoying anal means giving your body time to warm up and relax, plus using lots of lubricant. Skipping these steps can cause discomfort or pain. And if you don’t know your partner’s STI status, use a condom, no exceptions.)
Backside doggy style
When you think of anal sex, you probably think of the doggy style position. It’s not hard to understand why, Julia Margo, co-founder of UK-based sex toy company Hot Octopus, tells Health. “It offers easy entry, control to the partner being penetrated, and a pleasurable angle of penetration,” she says.
Start by positioning yourself on all fours, and have your partner kneel behind you, hands on your hips. Once you’re ready for penetration, have your partner place the tip of his penis at the point of entry. From here, you can shift your hips back and forward to control the depth and rhythm. “The deeper your partner goes, the more likely they’ll be able to hit your A-spot, which is a highly sensitive and pleasurable area.” In fact, stimulating this pleasure-point could result in an anal orgasm.
To make sure you’re getting the most out of this position, Sinclair recommends angling your body in different ways. “Start off on all fours and see how that feels, then lower your chest all the way to the bed to see if you like that better,” she suggests.
Penis-in-vagina cowgirl gives you the reins, and the same goes for the anal sex version of this woman-on-top position. With your partner reclining face-up, straddle your knees on either side of him. Then, slowly lower your booty onto his penis, and adjust to the snug, full feeling. Once you’re comfortable, begin grinding, rocking, and rolling your hips until you find a rhythm you enjoy.
As you move, having your partner touch your clit or hold a vibrator against it, Mackenzie Riel, relationship and sex expert with sex-toy company Too Timid, tells Health. “Just like with vaginal cowgirl, this position will stimulate your G-spot,” she advises. “Add in some clitoris stimulation for a wild trio of pleasure.”
Butt lifted missionary
This position is one of the most intimate for anal sex—and when paired with a pillow to lift up your hips, one of the most enjoyable, says Sinclair. Lay back with a small, firm pillow positioned under your hips and then another, softer pillow under your head.
Have your partner support his body weight with his hands and enter you slowly. Place your hands on his hips to help him find the tempo that’s most pleasurable to you. “You might even try grabbing the backs of your knees and drawing them to your chest, so your partner can enter you more deeply,” says Sinclair.
Once you and your partner have found a rhythm that feels good, reach between your legs to stimulate your clitoris using your fingers or a vibrator. Your partner is in control, but you can easily communicate with your eyes, voice, or touch that you want him to go faster or slower, or not enter you too deeply or go even deeper.
“This is a great position for couples who are new to anal sex,” says Margo. Why? It’s so comfortable, it helps the muscles of the anus relax, she says. Lie on your sides, with you on the inside and your partner curled around you spoon-style. As you play little spoon, your partner can slowly ease inside you inch by inch. Again, the penetrating partner has most of the control here, but you can back up your booty if you want it deeper or faster.
Your partner can hold you tight and kiss your ears and neck as you adjust to the feel of him, which makes this anal variation so intimate. But it’s also a very orgasmic position, especially since you or your partner can easily reach down and play with your clitoris or nipples.
On bended knee
This position also requires you to lay on your side, your partner snuggled up behind you. Draw your top knee toward your chest and leave your bottom leg extended. From here, your partner can ease his way slowly inside of you, holding your booty open for easier access. Your partner has total control over the depth and speed—and he can angle your bent knee in different ways to switch up the sensation.
Intimacy educator Stella Harris, author of Tongue Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships, said this position is a favorite because it’s easy to personalize. “It offers a lot of variety and can easily be adjusted for more or less depth,” she says. And because your partner isn’t using his hands to hold himself up, they’re free to roam your body…or to hold you tight
5 simple ways to tighten your vagina!
The first few years of marriage are usually the most blissful. Lots of romance, romantic dates and also lots of sex is what your initial years of marriage or for that matter, relationship looks like.
Your man will do anything possible to give you happiness. But the happiness won’t last long if you do not take care of your health, especially your sexual health.
Initially sex is fun, smooth and full of pleasure. But if the sex happens too much after a point of time, a woman’s vagina starts becoming loose. Vaginal looseness is a common problem among several women. While some just ignore this, others desperately look for solutions to this problem.
Women with vaginal looseness often also struggle with low confidence and self esteem. Two of the other major reasons behind this problem are also pregnancy and childbirth.
For those women who have been struggling with this problem, there is absolutely no reason to worry. If pregnancy, delivery or anything else has made your vagina loose, there are several ways that will help you tighten your vagina. We have listed down several tips that will help you tighten your vagina naturally.
1. Following a proper and strict diet:
The first and foremost thing to tighten your vagina is tighten follow a proper and good diet. If you change your food habits, that will make a huge difference to your overall health. Your pelvic floor will become stronger with a strict diet.
You need to have foods that have estrogens in them like pomegranates, soybeans, carrots, apples, berries and so on. Your inner muscles will go a long way if you improve your diet. First improve your inner health, only then the outer health will get better.
2. Kegel exercises:
Kegel exercises are one of the most popular ways of tightening your vagina. This is also one of the most recommended ways. These exercises have also proven to be a lot helpful to women who have been facing this problem.
The clench and release exercise is what constitutes the Kegel exercise. The pelvic floor muscles become stronger because of this and thus help in tightening your vagina. To do this exercise, the first thing that you need to do is find your pelvic muscles.
While urinating, stop mid way and try feeling your muscles. Once you have found it, you can tighten them by contracting for just about five seconds. Contract for five seconds and then relax for another five. Continue this procedure as often as possible.
3. Squat exercise:
Squatting exercise has proved to be fruitful for people looking for a toned lower body. Squat has also always been a part of gym routines.
But not many may be aware that squats are also good for vagina tightening. For those who have not been introduced to this exercise, squat can be done simply. You just need to stand with your legs spread and you have to go down like you are sitting on a bench. Go up, stand for some time and then again sit down.
While doing so, also ensure that you push your hip outwards. You can improve your vaginal muscles by squatting. So with one form of exercise, you will have two benefits. One is tightening vaginal muscles and the second is a toned body.
4. Pelvic stretch:
Like the name suggests, this one is specifically done only to strengthen the pelvic muscles. It is pretty easy to do the pelvic stretch. You need to sit on the edge of a chair and spread your legs. Keep your hands on your knees and point your elbows outside. Bend towards your ankles and spread your arms. You need to fold your pelvis area inside. This exercise is one of the most effective ways of strengthening vaginal muscles and tightening your vagina.
Now who doesn’t know about Yoga, nobody right! Yoga has been proven to be one of the most effective ways for a good mental and physical health. Practice yoga on a regular basis and that will help you tighten your vaginal muscles. Yoga has several pelvic floor exercises like the Bridge Pose that are excellent for tightening pelvic muscles. Deep breathing will also help a great deal. You can do these several times a day to get a tighter vagina within a short period of time.
Apart from all the exercises what we mentioned above, you also get several gels that will help you. But you need to get these gels only after consulting a doctor. Do not apply or use nay medicines without being prescribed. Also, all these tips that we have listed needs to be a part of your routine every single day only then can you expected goo results. Do these exercises daily at least for 15 minutes and see how your problems are solved. You too can now enjoy a healthy sex life just like you did back then.
Kissing mistakes you’re making
A kiss is the gentlest yet fiercest form of love to exist. The simple touch can ignite the passion and make you want more. Kissing your true love can even make you the happiest!
While we all want to impress our partners by being the best kisser, we all tend to make a few mistakes while kissing that can leave a bad impression on our lover or crush.
To help you in this situation, here are some common mistakes you’re making while stealing that kiss.
A big NO. This is the worst thing that can happen when kissing someone. You certainly do not want to lock lips with someone who’s had onion rings a while ago! It’s always a good option to carry pocket mints and pop them into your mouth whenever necessary.
Too much tongue or no tongue at all is a common mistake everyone makes when opting to go all French mode. Having too much tongue come at you can be extremely uncomfortable and no tongue just seems to take out the fun.
No hands show
Kissing without hands on your partner’s face or body isn’t sensual at all. It’s just plain kissing. Attempting to kiss without the hands is no victory. Instead, move your hands around a little bit, only after you match your partner’s vibe.
Nobody wants to kiss a vampire. A little biting on the lips is sexy but chomping on the lips will probably make your partner run away from the scene. Remember, slow and sensual, little bites will earn you brownie points.
Eyes wide open!
Keeping your eyes open while your partner is kissing you is downright creepy. Eyes closed while kissing is the dreamy way everyone wants. Close your eyes and feel the sensuality of it all.
Imagine kissing dry, chapped lips; the horror! If you want to keep your lips soft, luscious, and kissable, have a lip balm always in hand. It shows how invested you are to kiss them properly.
How long should sex last?
If you’ve ever visited a theme park, you would understand that going on various rides is the order of the occasion.
Whether you go on the crazy and adrenaline pumping or simple but fun rides, the important thing is to go on and have fun. But the sad reality is that the ride has to eventually come to an end.
After the fun and loud screams, you sadly have to get off. But, how long would you like that joy ride to last? And similar to the above analogy, how long should the sex ride last for?
According to fatherly.com, one study surveyed sex therapists, specifically regarding how long vaginal intercourse should last before ejaculation.
According to the study, one to two minutes was too short, three to seven adequate, eight to 13 desirable and anything from 10 to 30 considered too long.
But recently, some not-so-scientific data collected by sauceydates.com indicated that men and women thought sex should last for 25 minutes.
Furthermore, Medical News Today magazine said the ideal time was anything from 33 seconds to 44 minutes, with the average session taking 5,4 minutes. So, how long is your ride?
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