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10 lies we need to stop teaching boys about sex!

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Due to the existing societal structures and gender biases, boys and girls are taught different things about sex.

These teachings are often reflected when they grow up to be men and women. While for men, having sex for the first time is no less than a big accomplishment, it is all about “losing” virginity in the case of women.

Such opposing constructs are a result of how we perceive sex as a society, and what we teach boys and girls about it. This often results in men feeling privileged when it comes to matters like sex and women feeling shy and underconfident in expressing their likes and desires.

Thus, it is important to lay the correct foundation when it comes to sex. Here are some lies we need to stop teaching boys about sex.

1. Sex is all about penetration
The common concept of virginity and sex is too narrow and limiting. It is all about penis-in-vagina penetration. However, this excludes oral and anal sex. Furthermore, it is also not inclusive of the sexual experiences of LGBTQ people. Boys need to be taught that sex means so much more to different people than just penetration.

2. Boys can’t be raped
Rape is a very underreported crime regardless of gender. In addition, rape and sexual violence against men and boys are even more underreported. This is because of the misconception that “men always want sex.” As per experts, male victims are forced to believe that there must be something “not right” with them if they do not enjoy the attack.

3. Porn is a great way to learn about sex
It’s important to teach boys that sex depicted in porn is not how it is supposed to be. They must be well aware of the fact that porn is a performance and not an instruction manual. Watching a lot of it won’t make them good at sex!

4. Sex is over when a man finishes
This is one of the primary reasons for sexually frustrated relationships. Men often believe that sex ends when they achieve orgasm, irrespective of whether their partner is satisfied or not. This is highly selfish and inconsiderate of them, and they need to be educated about it as young boys.

5. Sex should last for hours
The over-inspiration from porn often results in boys thinking that sex should last for hours. However, this is not true at all. If sex was as long as it is portrayed in porn, it would be a rather painful and uncomfortable experience.

6. Size is everything

If there’s one thing society has consistently equated with manliness, it’s penis size. So it’s not surprising that so many guys worry about measuring up.

Here’s the truth: Size matters, to some people, sometimes. But it’s not everything.

7. Oral and anal sex are safer than vaginal sex

While oral and anal sex may not result in pregnancy (and oral sex is generally considered the least likely of the bunch to spread HIV), you can still give and receive plenty of STIs from either act. Different options mean different risks, not necessarily fewer. The safest thing is to be sure you and your partner get tested regularly (rectal STI testing included, if that’s on the table), and, of course, use condoms.

8.  If she doesn’t say no, that means “yes”

There’s so much shame and stigma surrounding sexuality that talking about consent might feel awkward, especially when you’re young. We need to get over this, because those are the most important conversations we can have. From the White House’s recent task force to curb sexual violence on college campuses, to student protests across the country, it’s clear that sexual assault remains an enormous problem for young men and women. Ignorance is no excuse.

We need to teach both boys and girls to be clear in their intentions, and always to respect one anothers’ bodily autonomy. This starts by emphasizing the following, no matter your gender: No means no. The absence of a clear “yes” also means no. Alcohol and clothing choices do not equal consent. And no one is ever obligated to have sex with anyone else. Ever.

Incidentally, the friend zone does not exist and cat calling women is not a compliment.

9. Boys Are Always DTF
Society has spent so much time focusing on men’s libido that even the occasional lack of desire can feel emasculating. But sometimes men — like women — just aren’t ready to go. Things like diet, sleep, stress and confidence can all affect the mood.

10 Straight Men Don’t Do Butt Stuff
Exploring their backside is taboo for many straight guys because they worry about seeming gay.

This is silly for many reasons, the most obvious of which is that there’s nothing wrong with being gay. Additionally, not all gay men engage in anal sex.

Whatever your sexuality, the prostate doesn’t discriminate. This walnut-sized gland, also known as the “male G-spot,” can be found between the penis and bladder, and many men — gay and straight — report that its stimulation leads to more intense orgasms.

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Top 10 African countries with-the most beautiful women

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HOUSING 54 countries, both the longest and only pink rivers in the world, Africa is indeed a special continent.

Not only is it the hottest continent in terms of climate, but it also hosts the hottest women in the world.

So which country has the most beautiful women?

According to popular African magazine The Nile Post, these are the top 10 African countries with the most beautiful women:

1. Ethiopia

This is considered by many as a country with the most beautiful women in Africa. The women are also often described as charming and gorgeous.

2. Nigeria

This is the most populous country, and one of the most demographically diverse. It has so many beautiful ladies with an enormous sense of fashion.

3. Tanzania

Tanzanian women are very beautiful, gorgeous and curvy. They often tend to give men sleepless nights with their beautiful smile and red lips.

4. Kenya

Kenyan women are beautiful and have a good sense of fashion. They are also curvy with very attractive human features.

5. DR Congo

Congolese women are very warm, caring, have strong survival sense and one of the most beautiful in the continent.

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6. Ivory Coast

The biggest Cocoa makers also serve some of the hottest women in the continent.

7. Ghana

Not only are they beautiful, but Ghanaian women are also friendly, curvy and romantically appealing.

8. South Africa

South African women are not only beautiful, but they are also deemed ambitious and goal-driven.

9. Zimbabwe

The women in Zimbabwe are often deemed as beauty with plenty of brains.

10. Burundi and Rwanda

Women in these two countries have the same stunning beauty features, with the difference being only on the speaking accent and fashion sense.

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Meet the baby born with three 4-5s

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A BABY boy was born with three 4-5s in Iraq.

According to Live-Science magazine, the baby was born with three 4-5s in the first-ever reported case of human triphallia, the condition in which three phalluses form during embryonic development.

According to the publication, the child, first seen by doctors as a three-month-old baby, underwent surgery to remove two of the phalluses, which were small projections at the base of the 4-5 and scrotum.

The third phallus was in the usual location.

According to a case study in the International Journal of Surgery Case Reports published in November, the boy was doing well at a follow-up visit a year after surgery.

According to world health experts, extra penises are a rare congenital condition, occurring only once in every five million to six million live births.

The level of development of these extra phalluses differs in individuals.

In the case of the child in Iraq, the two additional penises contained the erectile tissue, called corpus cavernosum, which becomes engorged with blood during arousal, as well as a tissue called corpus spongiosum, which helps support the urethra, the tube through which urine passes.

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There is a dating app for those with big 4-5s

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DAVID Minns, the creator and founder of Dinky One, the dating app for those with small 4-5s and those who enjoy them, has now created a special dating app for those with big 4-5s.

Aptly named The Big One, it’s a dating application open to men who have an above-average 4-5 (about 14cm long), or any person of any gender who prefers a larger 4-5.

According to Metro.co.uk, following the success of Dinky One, which has 70 000 sign-ups, David wanted to cater for their bigger counterparts.

David shared that Big One was made in response to the numerous requests.

He said both apps ensured everyone could find their perfect match.

“The majority of feedback I received from Dinky One was men excited to see a platform that had never been done before.

“Pre-launch comments for Big One were primarily women looking to date without having to be concerned about size. Both sites complete the set,” said David.

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